For years I am just stumbling with life like a daily chore.
Dragging myself to work, enduring with the every day hustle.
I was lost, as if wandering around in a jungle with heavy fog.
But now, things are starting to get clear.
The fog is starting to lift and the path slowly opens in front of me.
This is not just a one-time "Aha!" moment like a light bulb suddenly lit above my head.
It's more of a clear understanding of how I control my own destiny and how to do it...step by step.
More often than not, we need to be slapped with reality and feel the pain of its bite on our ego before we came to realize what should we do. Sounds deep? Not really.
A lot of people will give inspirational advice on how to get better in the different aspects of our lives. That includes career, financial security, love, and family among other things that will make us happy and fulfilled. But through the years, this made me even frustrated more because all these advice are so generic and vague. They won't even tell you where to start or how to do it.
Now I came to realize that the only person who can help me is myself. Every one else can provide some sort of support but ultimately, I am responsible for my own life and no one else can dictate my future but myself. It sounds selfish, but it's actually not. The by-product of helping myself is to help others like me to be the best version of themselves.
As intriguing as it may sound now, I can only disclose the basic principles of my self-enlightenment. I do not believe in spoon-feeding. We as human beings do not realize the value of anything if it's given free. Anyway, it only revolves in these few lessons in life that I've learned:
1) Educate thyself. I'm not necessarily talking about taking Masters or PhD's. I'm talking about understanding how the world works. Be literate at the things that matters the most. And this is a continuous process. It doesn't stop after taking crash courses. Life is a never ending school.
2) Stop helping others who doesn't want to help themselves. Believe me, it's an absolute waste of precious time and energy. It's personally very draining to hang out with toxic and whiny people. Instead, help others who have their own drive and motivation for change. This a good way to keep paying it forward.
3) Still don't know what your passion in life is? Or at least a passion that will still pay the bills? I mean you can be passionate at something like singing or dancing, but reality check, can you earn enough doing that instead of your current job? Stop finding your passion through pointless soul searching. It's very counter productive. Focus on the now. Be good.. be really good at what you do now and this becomes your passion. Then, move on to a new passion when you're ready.
4) Accepting reality but be open to possibilities. Don't be a pessimist but don't be an optimist either. Be a realist...ride the waves, go with the flow and not against it.
5) Do something new to result to something different. Insanity is doing things over and over and expecting a different result. Do not whine and blame the world for your misfortunes. Stop expecting free lunch. Go fish yourself. Prayer and faith are great but is never enough. Do something about it.
6) Know what you want and find the most effective way to get it. Nobody will spill trade secrets. You have to be resourceful. Make calculated risks and take the leap.
In the process I'm noticing that my personality changes as well. It's a positive change. And I like it.
The future looks bright. Now there's always something to look forward to every day.
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